18 December 2009

kiss and tell



What is the most recent thing you´ve learned?

I´ve learned not to ask my teenagers about their day. Instead I wait... and usually within minutes they start talking... and talking... and talking... Oh the things I could tell you...

Stay warm this weekend!

¡Dos besos muy gordos!

P.S. Hey cacahuete- Blogger keeps sending back my comments. Just thought you should know...


47 comments:

Kamana said...

that no one behaves the way you expect them to. that rather than losing my temper, everything works so much better when i look out of the window, and focus on the waves in the sea outside when i feel like screaming.

april said...

it's almost unbelievable to me, but i learned the headstand this year. 35 years without standing on my head and with 36, finally i did. the world feels like upside down ;-) and i think i've to learn a lot about teenagers too. the twins are now 13 years old - a lot of discussions here. happy weekend dear jane. and a kiss*

pien said...

lOAds of things...

but i will say..

knitting!
its fun!

ibb said...

A big beso and...what is the last thing I learned...I don´t know..I supose that I learn something everyday...other thing is to realize that you have learned.

Purple Flowers said...

I've learned conversations are most productive when one learns to listen.

Inna said...

the recent thing I've learned? this morning I learned about infinite geometric series in school..

Tiphaine said...

The last thing I learned is something I should have known for so long : put repellent on the boys so their legs wouldn't be infected as they are now...stupid me !

Beijinhos from here.

Line said...

I have learn to listen ... and It a brand new world! I will do the same with my teen too, I know it works!

Crescent Moon said...

I learned a lot this week, but here are 3 of the things:

1. I had to help a 13 year old with a report about two animals who live in the boreal forest, so I now know quite a bit about red squirrels (such as, that sister squirrels will have slumber parties on cold nights as a way of keeping warm).

2. Glue dots are not a good way to have children put together Christmas crafts. The glue dots will stick to your hands and the table ( and one in my hair), but they will not hold the crafts together.

3. That there is nothing we can do to strengthen my son's right eye. He has always had a spot of scar tissue in his right eye, but before the eye Dr. appointment yesterday, I had been told that putting a patch over his good eye, would help the weak one get stronger. Yesterday, I was told there was nothing that could be done, that the scar was in such a place that he would always be blind in that eye and that he had very little depth perception, as a result.

Finn said...

a way to deal with anger! practice took years of theoretical, endless and hopeless discourses ;)

I wish a beautiful weekend to you and your family

Joyce said...

For what I can see with my friends this is a good leason you learned. Smile...
The latest thing I learned was this morning over at trinsch. Her post today is very interesting.
Have a golden weekend my friend. xo

Le blÖg d'Ötli said...

euh... I don't know... I think I learn everyday... in every book I read, with my children, in (some) conversations I have with the others... on our blogs ;)

Have a nice week-end

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elisvermeulen said...

I learned that communication is almost impossible..
words and the meaning of words differ in every part of the world, country, group, with every person, even if you use the same language.
The meaning of words even differ in what kind of mood someone is. (and don't start me talking about body language, internet of blog language..)

( and yes.. never ask a teenager how his or her day was the minute they step in, let them come home first. :)some need up to an hour for that. )

jgy said...

that you can't try to hold on to eternity:))

Allegria said...

I learned yesterday that when making conserves with oranges to take much of the pith off the orange EVEN if the recipe says to simply finely chop the unpeeled oranges. After a whole bath (documented yesterday), I could not eat what I had spent an hour making! Do you like orange peel, even if it's a bit pithy tasting? I'm trying to give it away!

KathyA said...

Much to my chagrin, I learned that Tiger Woods is not the man I thought he was.

malo said...

I've learned that my friends are even more awesome than I thought. And that I have more friends than i knew.

What a great thing to learn about your teenagers. And what a wise parent you are to adjust and respect the integrity of your young ones. Respect!

Jane said...

I have had to learn, after being interviewed in a paper here recently (on of those papers that allowed on line comments on the story), that when people are being anonymous they can say not very nice things.

Conversely in most of this blogosphere, people are at their best, and others could and should learn from them.

Hope your Xmas preparations are going well. xoxo

caitlin said...

I have learned that good communication makes all the difference.

Have a good weekend Jane!

Rie said...

Most recent thing I've learned.... Hmm, sticky tape sticks to everything but what you want it to stick too... I hate wrapping Christmas Presentssssssssssssss

alexandria said...

This made me smile and it is true of kids for sure. Love the photograph!

nicola@which name? said...

i've learned that i am still growing up. and in some ways, i hope i continue to and in some ways, i hope i never do.
ciao,
nicola
http://whichname.blogspot.com

Cobalt Violet said...

I learned to make brussels sprouts so that I actually like them ...
That my friends will be there when things get tough...
That Netflix is much better than wandering aimlessly through the video store...
OH! And how do a blog posting! (I was a little late to the party!)

Happy Holidays!
Great photo!

The Wanderers' Daughter said...

I think that what I'm learning right now is how not to fear for my one daughter's life every minute of every day. I never knew how fragile was a life before I was a mother. I need to discover a new balance between nurturing and protectiveness and allowing a child their freedom. We all live a short, brilliant life. None of us is ever "safe". I am trying to learn how to let my child live, as I did, without fear.

isabelle said...

I just learned how to survive when it is - 15° outside ... Have a great and warm week end !!

lovepics said...

thank you jane for this good advice!!! for the moment my kids talk and talk and talk all the day... but it won't last, i know it :-)
wishing you a nice we

Guusje said...

I've learned that I can loose my patience, not really proud of, but hey, just human!

Have a good weekend, dear Jane!

Lollipop said...

what a smart mother your are!
I'll keep your advise for later! take care sweet jane
Snow is here too! with the sun! Lucky me!!!

Mama Zen said...

I have to take the same approach with my six year old!

laméditerraine said...

I learnt that living blind and behind the truth is worse than knowing the truth and living blue.

I wish my parents asked me how my day went and I could tell them everything.
Big Besos

Nihal said...

A few weeks ago I started learning Esperanto. Sounds not very attractive, but expressive, neutral and really easy to comprehend. For example, Merry Christmas & Happy New Year =Gajan Kristnaskon & Bonan Novjaron

Highly advised!

:)

Dorte said...

I would say that I just re-learned how nice it is with a woolen hat when it is below zero C ...

Nihal: wow esperanto - very interesting!

Italian Country Cooking said...

I have learned:
To speak Italian after I turned 40
Control is overrated.
I have no control over so many things and I am at peace with that.
I learned how to make great delicious pizza on the BBQ.
Kale is a wonder drug. Eat as much kale as you can.
Life is really short. Enjoy.
I learned and saw great compassion from by 15 and 17 year old boys

Olga said...

Imagination and fiction make up more than three-quarters of our real life!

kyndale said...

You are the smartest mama in the world to have figured that out! I will keep that in mind when my daughter gets a little older :)

Cacahuete_sr said...

Thanks so much for your message! :) Sorry blogger was acting up! I did end up getting your comment. Thanks for the note and for keeping trying to visit my blog :) :)

♥ Braja said...

Great shot....
learned? too much :)

Francesca said...

Thanks for the advice, Jane. It'll come in handy shortly here.

outi said...

i have learned to fly. in my dreams;)
besos Jane!
ps. i´m going to Barcelona for the christmas, any tips..?

l i s e said...

I learn every day so much... but I also forget sometimes that I've learned!

Lisa - The Heller Family said...

Last thing I learned is that in trying to save a buck and buying my kiddies snow boots too big, they will fly off while going down the hill on the sled, which will lead to a melt down on their part. Snow is pretty freezing when your boot flies off with your sock still in it, huh?

Joanna Jenkins said...

I learned that a 15+ hour plane ride is waaaaay to long. (Tel Aviv to Los Angeles) I will never do that non-stop again.

Hope you are enjoying the holiday season.

Merry Christmas,
xo

Kate Coveny Hood said...

That's a tough one. I think that more often than not, we just ingest life lessons without even realizing it. But I'll take a stab at it. Maybe something about myself. That I'm far more selfish than I'd like to admit. I recognize this in other people all the time, but now I wonder if that's just because "it takes one to know one..."

Rocio said...

When things do not go acording to plan, breathe out and think of the positive things that will result from the new situation. Even if your Christmas plans have just been completely turned upside down!!.
Abrígate Jane, que seguimos en alerta!!

kim said...

i've learned that if i cover my left eye with my hand, my headache goes away! beats aspirin!!!

aimee said...

well, i've learned that every child will be potty trained when he or she damn well pleases and it has very little to do with the parent. my first was a model child, trained early and almost overnight, so i got all smug and rolled my eyes at anyone who moaned and kvetched about their preschooler putting them through potty training hell.

then i got child number 2!

pink

I knew a girl who was blue. So she painted her world pink. xoxo